V-day gift for my ex....

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Registered: 01-28-2004
V-day gift for my ex....
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Wed, 01-28-2004 - 1:07pm
My boyfriend and I broke up a few days ago. I want to send him somthing for Valentine's Day that shows that I'm sorry and I miss him. Problem is he isn't exactly the sentimental Valentine's Day type. Any suggestions on a gift or gesture?
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Wed, 01-28-2004 - 3:31pm
Did you break up with him or did he break up with you?


Carrie

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Registered: 01-28-2004
Wed, 01-28-2004 - 7:40pm
I have thought about doing the very same thing. My ex fiance and I broke up 2 weeks ago and I miss him so much. If I'm not back with him by Valentine's Day, I'm going to be miserable, especially since we've spent the last 2 Valentine's Days together. My suggestion would be to resquest a song on the radio that is maybe yours and his song and dedicate it to him. Or write a love poem that expresses your feelings, or just get a Valentine's Day card and send it by mail, and see if he calls you.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-28-2004 - 8:23pm

Oh,

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Registered: 06-18-2003
Wed, 01-28-2004 - 10:01pm
I would have to say the same thing. Just IGNORE Valentine's Day. Just because Hallmark tells us to celebrate love does not mean that we have to buy into it. If she wants to get back together with her ex, she should wait until AFTER V-Day and then think of another game plan.
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Registered: 01-28-2004
Thu, 01-29-2004 - 1:33pm
Thank you all for your input! I agree though on the whole self-respect thing -- I don't want to do anything all sappy and outrageous for him. But the truth is, I think it was my fault we broke up. I haven't called him since he broke up with me, and he has called me once a day since to make sure "I'm ok." I figure on not calling him at all -- giving him time to stop being mad -- until V-day. Or maybe you're right, I should wait until after V-day. I just want to let him know that I love him (we were together for almost 6 years) without crowding him. With all of that said...any more advice?
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Registered: 05-09-2003
Thu, 01-29-2004 - 3:43pm
My bf and I also broke up almost 3 weeks ago. We have been seeing each other since on weekends and having a great time.

I dont want to give him a gift because that will be too much pressure on him. But I also want to win him back... Slowly, not rushing him and I into anything without thinking and giving us time.

Maybe I should ask him out on VDAY as we are doing this days. Should I?
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Registered: 04-22-2003
Thu, 01-29-2004 - 5:03pm
Why don't you give him a call the day BEFORE VDay, to check out how he is doing, and 'test the waters'. Who knows, maybe he will ask you out on VDay... I agree with the posters who say you should not do anything VDay related. Leave it to him, if he wants to. I wish you luck.