Very Confused - please help
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Very Confused - please help
| Sat, 07-28-2007 - 9:10am |
I need advice. I've been married 2 1/2 years but have been with my DH for almost 9. My bro came to me and told me that my DH had tried to get physical with his wife a couple of weeks ago. When I confronted my DH he said it was just a 3 second kiss initiated by her. She told my bro as soon as it happened and that he tried for more. All 3 of these people are my best friends. We hang out every week and call each other every day. I have no reason to think any of these people would lie to me. I feel like I'm being pulled in 1,000 directions and don't know what to do. When I mentioned MC to DH he said "Why,there's nothing wrong" he claims he loves me with all of his heart and swears on his life that he's telling the truth. Right now I don't know who to believe or even what to do from here. This all happened yesterday. It took my bro 2 weeks to even tell me. I feel like I'm being pushed to make a decision right now about the rest of my life. What do I do?

First off, your husband treating marriage counseling like he's going to be strapped to a lie detector test isn't that great a sign. Second, why do you need to know who initiated it? Maybe they both did. They did something stupid and I think they both owe you an apology. Count 3 seconds in your head - yeah, you'd have enough time to quickly pull away and say "this is wrong."
If neither of them have given you a reason to mistrust them before, I would let this one go without thinking too much of it. You'll drive yourself crazy thinking about who started it without getting any answers. And if ever you're confronted with news like this again, you'll be a little more in the loop.