Walking on Eggshells

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Registered: 03-13-2008
Walking on Eggshells
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Thu, 03-13-2008 - 11:51pm

This is actually a mutual problem my BF and I have.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 03-14-2008 - 11:30am

Welcome to the eggshells29680,


Have you had this problem your whole relationship? If so, I am surprised that you made it two years. Both of you could try wording things differently (which could be a pain) like instead of you asking "are you hungry" you could say "I was thinking of making supper what would you like" etc. Either that or try buying some books on communication or attending counseling together.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 03-14-2008 - 1:06pm

Welcome to the board eggshells29680,


Reading material:


The Last Word on the Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense – Susan Elgin (this gives lots of good techinques)


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-14-2008 - 7:54pm

Have you ever had the experience where you meet someone and you both "get each other" instantly? When you both feel like you've known each forever? When you feel instant chemistry? Most people have met others who fit that description. I sure have, and I have two close friends that became instant friends when we met over 10 years ago.


I think that just like you can meet people with whom you have that instant postive energy, you can meet people with whom you have a negative energy. Ever after you meet, if it becomes a relationship or friendship in spite of the negativity, you always feel like you're trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. It doesn't mean that either persojn is bad or seriously flawed in some way. It just means that they don't make a good match. It shouldn't be so hard to get along, and have simple communication over small every day things with your partner. When you do, maybe you are just incompatible. Wouldn't it be better for both of you to be with someone that gets you?