Want my boyfriend back

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Want my boyfriend back
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Thu, 01-29-2004 - 10:35am
My boyfriend liked me a whole lot and could do anything for me and he was hoping to marry me,but he broke up with me because i had something to do with one of his friends but that was before i met my boyfriend, he asked me several times but i lied to him cos i didnt want to ruin my relationship, i later told him the truth when it was getting too dangerous but that didnt save my relationship.He said he didnt want me anymore but later on we started talking but not as lovers but as friends, i love him so much and i want him back, right now im sticking to him cos im hoping things will get better between us since we relate very well on phone, but ive waited a long time and it doesnt seem we would get back together as we used to be,he doesnt call me as often as he used to but i have this stong feeling he still likes me but he cant just get back to me cos he is embarrassed cos of what i had done and thats why im still sticking to him.

Pls help me out what can i do, im so addicted to him that its so hard for me to let go.

Do u think we can ever get back together?

Do u think he cant let go and thats why he still calls me.

Do u think hes seeing someone elese?

should i stop calling him and make him chase me or should i still wait and see how things goes.

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Registered: 01-28-2004
Thu, 01-29-2004 - 11:28am
Well, you are in a difficult situation. It is obvious that he still cares for you, otherwise he wouldn't call you. The thing is though, you have to analyze the extent for which he cares. It could be that he thinks of you as a friend and nothing more... I don't know the conversations you have or the relationship you had. The fact is, if the two of you are meant to be, it will happen. You hurt him and he is just not going to get over that in a second. It will take him a while to sort things out and decide what he wants and who he wants to be with. If I were in your situation, I would stop calling him. If he continues to call you, then he cares and if not, then you have your answer. I will give you the advice that my gramma gave me when I was going through a similar situation. She said, "If you love him this much and he's not the one, imagine how much you'll love the one that is." Good luck...
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Thu, 01-29-2004 - 1:02pm
Yes, stop calling him. Let him sort out how he feels and deal with being lied to and if he can resolve it in his head, then he contact you.

I know it's hard and that it hurts, but you can become annoying if you bug him too much or you can let him come to you and accept his decision.


Carrie