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Want to save my marriage....
| Wed, 01-21-2004 - 4:26pm |
A little history...my husband and I have been married for 9 years and we have been togehter for 17 years. Five years ago he had an affair with a co-worker, he left and came home a few months later. We rebulit our marriage. Now fast forward to present time, he is having another affair. This time the girl is young enough to be one of our nieces. She has now left for college. He has told me that he cares for me but does not know if it is love. I have asked him to see a therapist with me and has yet to come. He is my problem..before he asked me out on a date all those years ago I knew that I was going to marry him and spend my life with him. We have had many up's and down's in our relationship. I want this marriage to work and I am fighting for it. But how do I get him to come along for the ride? I love him very much.
Thanks
Kristen
Thanks
Kristen

You can't MAKE someone go along for the ride. If he's unwilling to go to counseling, be your partner and work on all this....and if you stay with him, then you are giving him permission to continue his behavior - he knows he can see someone, leave you for awhile and come back. Aren't you worth more than that?
Reading material:
How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together: Breakthrough Strategies to Resolve Your Conflicts and Reignite Your Love by Sue Ellen Page
Surviving Infidelity: Making Decisions, Recovering from the Pain by Rona Subotnik, Gloria Harris
Affair-Proof Your Marriage: Understanding, Preventing and Surviving an Affair by Lana Staheli
Straight Talk About Betrayal: A Self-Help Guide for Couples by Donna R. Bellafiore
Infidelity: A Survival Guide by Don-David
After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful -- Janis Abrahms
Carrie