Wants me back and won't admit it?

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Registered: 03-17-2004
Wants me back and won't admit it?
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Sun, 04-11-2004 - 5:46pm
Hey, ok, my ex-boyfriend IMed me a few weeks ago and told me that he wants me and our friends over someday soon. Ok, that's all well and good..but..my mom doesn't like him..and probably won't let me go. Is that right? I mean the worst thing he has done to me was break up with me. And wait...it gets better...my guy friend told me that my ex is having us over because my ex is throwing him a birthday party. Now, my ex never said that it was a party but my guy friend thinks he did. All my ex said that he was going to have me over. What the heck is all this about? Do you think my ex wants me back and is just using this as an excuse to see me?? And won't tell his friend? Do guys really have trouble telling people stuff about how they feel? If my ex wanted me back, would he admit it to his friend? How do I know how my ex is feeling or if he wants me back? I'm surprised that my ex IMed me all of a sudden. I've been asking his friend if my ex talks about me, he said no, but, now he says that my ex does talk about me ever since he wants me to come over. I mean, if my ex wants me back, wouldn't he just tell me?

blondebeauty03

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Registered: 03-03-2004
Sun, 04-11-2004 - 7:41pm
I'm guessing this guy is pretty young? No, I don't think he would necessarily tell you if he wanted you back. Based on past experiences with young guys, even if he broke-up with you, he'll feel the waters before he approaches you. It sounds like he may be rolling the idea of getting back together with you around in his head. He's probably waiting on you to see which way he decides to go. That's probably why he invited you to his house/party. It doesn't sound like to wants to commit one way or the other right now. It will depend on you.

I don't know the guy. My mother told me to talk about what the guy likes if I liked someone. I've found that advice to be partly helpful and partly passe'. I guess if it were me, I'd keep the flirting light, give him some encouragement, but keep him coming for more. Best wishes.