Was I played? stopped calling

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Registered: 01-04-2004
Was I played? stopped calling
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Fri, 03-07-2008 - 9:39am

Hello to all.


I am so upset and angry and I showed it by being a physo woman. Ok I haven't had a serious relationship since the my twins back in 2004. I have gone out of dates and didn't even sweat it or wasn't interested.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 03-07-2008 - 1:05pm

Welcome to the board purenatural1,


Jan 15th to Feb 25, with 4 dates?!?!

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 03-07-2008 - 1:39pm

Welcome to the board purenatural1,


I don't think that he was trying to hurt you. I think the best thing for you to do is not to contact him at all. If he contacts you, than you can ask him what is going on. At this point contacting him, would only make you look worse.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-04-2004
Fri, 03-07-2008 - 1:57pm

I guess I got "caught" in his wanting a true relationship. He

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 03-07-2008 - 2:09pm
I understand. I had a relationship 4 years ago that only last about a month but it got very serious, very quickly. To the point where from the second day we starting seeing each other, I spent everynight night at his house. We talked on the phone several times and day and were just always together. Then I had to leave town for two days and he replaced me while I was gone. It took me months to get over him. It was very hard on me. But I learned a lot from it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-07-2008 - 2:25pm

From a man's perspective, this is really very simple.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-04-2004
Fri, 03-07-2008 - 2:31pm

Yes I am taking this as a lesson. Even if he ever calls me back. I am not willing to tolerate it, his behavior, I just want to know why.I have two daugthers who are 2 1/2 years twins and a 12 year old and I will not allow them to see me in a messed up relationship. I don't even feel like dating. I actually had no desire or marriage or any of that

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-28-2007
Fri, 03-07-2008 - 4:23pm

I think you need to force yourself to stop wondering "why." You're never going to get a true answer, and it could any number of things.

He said he has a lot going on, and I can imagine that he's telling the truth. A 13 year old marriage is about to end in a month, and no matter how long they've been separated I'm sure the turmoil of his marriage officially ending might cause him to rethink things.

Also, it seems like the two of you clearly moved too quickly... talking to someone several hours every night for over a month is too much, in my opinion.

Maybe with all the things he was going through he decided he needed to take a step back for awhile, and then you left him several "psycho" messages and he decided to cut his losses.

Definitely do not contact him again. I also think that you refusing to date until your children are older is not the best solution either. You should continue to date when you find someone you are interested in, but take it much, much slower next time.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-11-2005
Fri, 03-07-2008 - 7:44pm

Well, this guy sounds a little flaky. It might just be because of the divorce, but if he's this absent at the early stages of a relationship, it will only get worse.


-M

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-16-2007
Sat, 03-08-2008 - 10:21am
Sorry to be the big downer here, but.... He's married, you have young children, and the two of you quite frankly have no business even considering being together right now.
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Registered: 01-04-2004
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 11:51am

I guess I got my answer. I say that he had this profile back online.


"Hello Ladies....I'm back again just trying to meet someone that's sweet,sexy,caring and honest; willing to take a normal pace to pursue an intriguing friendship.Someone that wouldn't mind going out occassionally to connect with each other mentally and maybe emotionally as time progress.I enjoy traveling,out to dinner,bowling,fishing,outdoor activities and drag racing my car;but not selfish in doing what my lady likes doing"


I know we connected emotionally. I mean