Was i so wrong ?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-28-2012
Was i so wrong ?
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Wed, 11-07-2012 - 4:17am

<p>Hi all, i have a boyfriend who lives 1/4 mile away and although he does not like to stay at mine he does as so do i stay at his , He presently does not work and he lives on his own . I work full time have a son at college and a aging poorly dog , but i make the effort to go to his to stay over too.&nbsp;</p><p>Last eve after packing dog bed, food , my clothes and meds for my dog ..getting her into car (i carry step around ) i arrived and got settled ..Having a glass of wine i noticed my dog did not look too good ..i said to him look at her what do you think of her breathing ?? He immediately jumped up out of his seat and said"I can see im in the bleeding way here " and marched off upstairs ! so not knowing what to do i packed my dogs things up and my own ...got her into the car and came home ..i was not at his a hr b4 this happened ..i felt so let down by his behaviour ..did i do right ,,iv not phoned or text nor he me either , comments would be appreciated thank you x</p>

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Sat, 11-10-2012 - 6:44am

Hi,

A couple of observations:

1)Why are you "settling" for a guy with no job while you work and have your own place?

2)He's immature at best. Take care of your dog and find yourself a real man to date.

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Registered: 08-09-2012
Wed, 11-07-2012 - 6:54pm

ellirobert wrote:
<p>Hi all, i have a boyfriend who lives 1/4 mile away and although he does not like to stay at mine he does as so do i stay at his , He presently does not work and he lives on his own . I work full time have a son at college and a aging poorly dog , but i make the effort to go to his to stay over too. </p><p>Last eve after packing dog bed, food , my clothes and meds for my dog ..getting her into car (i carry step around ) i arrived and got settled ..Having a glass of wine i noticed my dog did not look too good ..i said to him look at her what do you think of her breathing ?? He immediately jumped up out of his seat and said"I can see im in the bleeding way here " and marched off upstairs ! so not knowing what to do i packed my dogs things up and my own ...got her into the car and came home ..i was not at his a hr b4 this happened ..i felt so let down by his behaviour ..did i do right ,,iv not phoned or text nor he me either , comments would be appreciated thank you x</p>

the bit about him not liking your son would have had me putting on brakes the moment I found that little thing out. He'd have to go.

Might be a good time to consider ending it.  Even though your son is grown, it's totally not cool that he doesn't like him.

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Registered: 07-28-2012
Wed, 11-07-2012 - 4:05pm
I intend to wait for a apology - i have not text or called nor he me !! other than that - he may have just wanted to get rid of me for alternative reasons ?? see above x ty for your reply x
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Registered: 07-28-2012
Wed, 11-07-2012 - 4:01pm
Love her to bits had her 14 yrs i owe it to her , He also does not like my son much and when e found out my son going to uni (which his children have not done ) he said "i suppose he will b with u for the next 30 yrs EH !!!! where is he coming from x
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Registered: 07-28-2012
Wed, 11-07-2012 - 3:57pm
He can be kind , but he refers to my family as no nads ( council house dwellers ) even though im one myself ..... but buying ...not the point !! He is so up his own backside as he is a singer of eve and thinks he is gods gift lol ,,, and also thinks its ok to go out of a eve with ex female work colleagues and im not invited ?? so i think he needs a wake up call !! x
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Registered: 07-28-2012
Wed, 11-07-2012 - 3:52pm
I agree , He hates staying at mine as my sofa is uncomfy and my house is too sml and kitchen is too sml and bed too hard ect ""!!!!! thank you for your support i have not contacted him since - i will wait for a apology x
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Registered: 07-28-2012
Wed, 11-07-2012 - 3:50pm
Thank you for your reply - i appreciate it , x
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Registered: 07-28-2012
Wed, 11-07-2012 - 3:49pm
Thank you for your support .. i appreciate your comments x
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Wed, 11-07-2012 - 3:41pm

Sounds like a self absorbed idiot to me.   If you really must continue seeing him, do not do so until he calls you with a heartfelt apology.    In the meantime, do not contact him.  

Having said that, given his attitude (unreasonably irritable, doesn't like staying at your house), I wouldn't be holding my breath for him to contact you at all.   Good riddance to bad rubbish.

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Wed, 11-07-2012 - 3:16pm

I agree with the other posters: that was a major display of self-absorption and insensitivity on his part.  Your dog is old and becoming fragile with age.  Does she LIKE traipsing off to your boyfriend's house all the time?  Based on your boyfriend's behavior, I would say she is more entitled to your consideration than he is.