We are spiraling out of control
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| Sun, 12-02-2007 - 12:30am |
My fiance is in another country. We are 15 hours apart. Since we've been doing the LDR this has been falling apart.
We fight all the time. Nothing ever gets resolved. We basically just promise to not fight again...until the next fight...
Our main topic of argument? The fact that he never calls, emails, etc. (He used to do this ALL THE TIME until we got engaged.) Now, I hear from him maybe once or twice a week. (Usually at 4 am my time...another obstacle for us.) Sure, you might say he is busy with work, etc but I hear from him EVEN LESS on the weekends!
When I bring it up all I get is sarcasm and lack of cooperation. I have brought this up numerous times, I get no change. I am getting SO tired of it! He doesn't seem to care. He doesn't take me seriously and he doesn't do anything about it. I am starting to feel like he is just a friend that I occasionally talk to.
He has totally changed since we got engaged. I really don't know any other way to remedy this, other than to ignore his calls and emails (if & when he actually does) so that he gets the point. I almost feel like I need to scare him into acting the way I want and need him to...
Any ideas? I'm getting so fed up.
I feel like if he doesn't listen to me and respect my feelings now, we don't need to get married. I've even already mentioned to him that he is not giving me what I need. I said maybe we should just postpone things til he gets back to the states (he comes home in 6 months). He doesn't like that option...and I don't like where we are now. HELP!

You definitely shouldn't get married until he has been home long enough for you to see if the relationship is back on track.
Welcome to the board cherjan,
I agree with the not getting married until you two have been together in the same country for a significant amount of time.
As for him not calling, well, I'd stop calling and let him miss you, call you, come to you, etc.