we can't argue properly
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we can't argue properly
| Tue, 09-07-2004 - 2:54am |
I have posted before somewhat about the same thing but I was addressing a part of the problem, not the cause. My boyfriend and I are having huge problems but I can't begin to talk to him about it because he gets so defensive and begins to argue. But the problem is that when he argues is that he begins to point fingers; he tries to say that I'm wrong and he's right, which is not the point and doesn't get us anywhere. During this I usually give up because he makes me so angry, usually by saying that I am being irrational or that my feeling are stupid and don't make any sense. In most ways he is really great or I wouldn't still be here, but when we have a problem we can't talk about it because he argues so badly. His father is very similar and he hates that about him, yet he does it too. Could that have something to do with it? Anyway, I would like to figure out a way to talk to him about this, and ways to approach him so this can stop.
Thanks,
Blair

Good luck to you.
Carrie