We fight so much!
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We fight so much!
| Sat, 06-05-2004 - 2:26am |
My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 months now, and were friends for about 7 months prior to that. We are constantly fighting. For the past 2/3 weeks it seems as though a new argument pops up every few days. We both have big jealousy issues, he's very introverted, whereas im outgoing and he feels we're very different, and he has a hard time letting old issues go, he always feels very insecure, so i do my best to show him as much affection and care as possible but he rarely returns it, so usually all arguements and issues we have stem from that.
I guess we're both trying to understand and know eachother, but I'm afraid we won't get past the fighting.
Yesterday I got upset because I was leaving and there were no kisses and or I love you's and it was heartbreaking. And today I found out he emailed this old female friend of his who's always flirting with him today, and she called him this evening while he was out and said he had emailed her today. I was confused because last week he told me he never ever talked to her anymore because he knew I was jealous.
I figured he emailed her this afternoon when I got distant today. So when there's no attention form me, he goes elsewhere to get it.
Any ideas, comments?
I guess we're both trying to understand and know eachother, but I'm afraid we won't get past the fighting.
Yesterday I got upset because I was leaving and there were no kisses and or I love you's and it was heartbreaking. And today I found out he emailed this old female friend of his who's always flirting with him today, and she called him this evening while he was out and said he had emailed her today. I was confused because last week he told me he never ever talked to her anymore because he knew I was jealous.
I figured he emailed her this afternoon when I got distant today. So when there's no attention form me, he goes elsewhere to get it.
Any ideas, comments?


Pianoguy doesn't want to knock you off your surfboard...but the tide appears to be turning in your relationship with this man! If he's communicating with somebody else, it's a good indication that he's about ready to dump you---or at least back off a bit!
If fighting is all you both are doing...why continue? You've obviously got some outgoing qualities that would be attractive to other men...and I'll bet your b/f has sensed this several times during your relationship...and might be concerned about whether YOU can be faithful?
Tell you what...why not give each other some space for 30 days? You both have the option of dating others (if you want to), but go with the 'trial separation' idea for a few weeks? You'll either realize that you can't live without each other...OR...discover that the distance is what you each need to "move forward", but AWAY FROM EACH OTHER?
Pianoguy