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| Fri, 01-25-2008 - 10:41am |
I've been with my bf for two years. I moved to his hometown a year ago, he's lived with me since then. he's never paid rent, he pays for utilities which are a third of what i pay. Lately i found he's been putting money in his savings account--about 200 dollars a month and hasn't said anything to me. I want to know what he's planning on doing with it and why is he saving when he could help me with bills. I need the help.
We've had a troubled past. he goes through strange moods, super nice one week, then mad for no reason or quiet the next. Lately, he's been going out wiht his friends to the bars every friday night and doesn't invite me. 6 months ago he just didn't come home one night and when his phone bill arrived i saw he had 5 late nights calls to some girl. he says she called her to tell her to stop calling him.
This weeks been great but i know it's just part of the cycle. A bad patch is on its way. How can I talk to him about his weekend behavior and savings account without making him upset? We're not marries--but i do feel i hav esome say about him being gone until 2 or three every friday night.

Welcome to the board emilyja2008,
Have you ever asked him to help you pay the rent? Perhaps he thought by paying for the ulilities that he was paying enough. Sit him down and let him know that you need some help paying the bills and see what he says. You also just need to tell him that you are uncomfortable with him going out every Friday night. Maybe you could work out an agreement where you go with him every other week. That way he still gets some time with the guys, but you still get to go out with him also.
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