Well... I let him GO

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Registered: 12-02-2007
Well... I let him GO
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Mon, 12-10-2007 - 11:02pm

Backtracking on my last discussion " He does NOT TRY"... I finally woke him up at 5:30..he asked me how my interview went and why i sounded upset. I told him i was mad because he does now is sleep, eat an watch movies and that me an my son didn't need to be around anybody rather an old friend or a boyfriend who acted in such a way.

*Sugars*

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 12-11-2007 - 10:50am

::How do i go to bed without saying goodnight.


I guess I'm confused. Are you still going to be living together?

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Tue, 12-11-2007 - 10:53am
No i've moved in with my dad temporarily until i get my own place. We've been seperated for 2 weeks tryin to fix things. We had so much stress on us with my mom trying to take my son, me losing my job, him losing his job, everything.

*Sugars*

*Sugars*

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 12-11-2007 - 11:10am
I think the best thing for you to do right now is to not have contact with him. If he is serious about wanting to be in a relationship with you, than he will start getting his life together. Until then, I wouldn't even think about being in a relationship with him.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 12-11-2007 - 11:19am

I agree with ctara.

If you're focusing on mending your relationship you will end up disappointed. Mend the relationship you have with YOURSELF because you are #1 first and foremost in your own life.

Separating doesn't solve problems. If you two can't come to an agreement on what needs to be done in order for you both to be happy then really, your relationship is beyond repair. I think you really need to start distancing yourself from the idea of getting back together.

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Registered: 12-02-2007
Tue, 12-11-2007 - 9:20pm
Well this community is called the Relationship Saver....I want to save this relationship because i love him... I dont want to try an find anyone else because i know this is somewhat of depression an mixed emotions in a man's mind. Isn't there something i could do to try an FIX the situation?

*Sugars*

*Sugars*

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 12-11-2007 - 9:43pm

Not every relationship is meant to be saved. Certainly the majority of relationships posted about here will not work out. Nor should they.

Your last line of your first post was filled with wisdom; use that wisdom and see this situation for what it really is. Just because one relationship didn't work out doesn't mean that things weren't fixed. You should fix your own life, and find someone who deserves you.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 12-12-2007 - 11:15am
The thing is you can't do anything to fix the relationship. He is the one the needs to make some changes, and he isn't going to do that until he wants to and is ready to.

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Registered: 12-02-2007
Wed, 12-12-2007 - 11:19am
Well i understand that. He definitely is the one who needs to make the changes, and i totaly agree on needing to get myself together.

*Sugars*

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 12-12-2007 - 11:45am
Thats really up to you. But I would make sure that he at least had a steady job that he was going to keep before even considering it.

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