Well they were texting one another

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Registered: 03-07-2014
Well they were texting one another
Sat, 04-26-2014 - 5:28am

Found out last night, that my partner and his ex were texting one another, she was asking to meet up with him, did I mention that she has a fiancé and baby girl too? Disgusting.

now I ended things. That's all I'm getting, is texts, saying how he loves me, he made a mistake!! he's trying to justify himself too, by saying we were split up! We argued yes, but split up for like half a day!! That still doesn't make it right! God, I am so angry, angry with myself! How on earth did this happen to me! 

Told him last night that I now feel nothing for him, i then get a text, basically saying if I didn't hear from him to call the police! What's that all about? I did hear from him by the way.

i feel like a bloody fool! 

He he makes me feel sick.

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 04-29-2014 - 1:51am

What is this you do not own him.  Pehaps there are differneces in values that cannot be resolved.


iVillage Member
Registered: 07-04-2006
Mon, 04-28-2014 - 3:36pm
Is he still living with you? You say you "ended things", but I get the impression he still lives with you. If he does, that explains why he's being nice. He doesn't want to be homeless! Don't let him use you for a place to live.
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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sat, 04-26-2014 - 10:46am

Two words: No Contact.

You have received a lot of good advice in the last few weeks.  Everyone was being kind and gentle but truly it is time to forget about this guy and move on.  He is not your partner; he is your ex.  And your ex's ex's behavior is none of your business.  Stop obsessing over what he does/did or does not do and start thinking what YOU need to do. 

You have two children with two different losers and now it is your responsibility to take care of them as it appears that you cannot count on either father to do the right thing.  (Not sure about child support laws in the UK but you never answered the question whether the father of the older child was helping).  What are you going to do about work, taking care of your illness, and securing the expenses to bring up your children?