We're engaged - not sure it will last...

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Registered: 12-11-2006
We're engaged - not sure it will last...
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Sat, 02-09-2008 - 5:04pm
My fiancee Mike and I have been together for about 1 yr 4 months, and we have been having issues that go well beyond the small stuff.
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Registered: 03-23-2005

does he have this drinking pattern frequently??? going out weekly ??? cuz this could be the


big picture, if you do marry him. It is only respectful that HE call you and let you know when


he is coming home, why wait and worry about him when he should be making the call and


letting you know. You have to decide if this is the way you want your fiance to act, getting


drunk, esp. if it is a "regular" thing.

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Registered: 02-20-2007

"We'd been having some issues we were trying to work out such as whether he wanted kids or not and whether we would have a wedding in a church or not. "
Please nail down the kids issue before you make any definite plans. It will ruin your relationship indefinitely if you are not on the same page as far as having children.

If you want my honest opinion... Because you sound relatively young and 1 year and 4 months is still a small amount of time after which to get married when you're young... I think you should halt the wedding plans and date one another longer before you make concrete commitments toward a wedding. During engagement is NOT the time to be working out issues that affect whether or not you'll be together forever. Do you have to go back to being "boyfriend and girlfriend"? Not necessarily, call him your fiancé if you want to, but if you're serious about marrying this guy then slow down and schedule some sessions with a premarital counselor. You have a lot of time to get these things worked out before you make the big jump. And really, I think you need to be getting better than what he's giving you before you put on ring #2.

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Registered: 02-05-2007

Welcome to the board jessica_collegegirl,


::We'd been having some issues we were trying to work out such as whether he wanted kids or not and whether we would have a wedding in a church or not.