What am I doing!?

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Registered: 05-23-2010
What am I doing!?
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Mon, 06-27-2011 - 4:32am

Before I ask me question that I so desperately need answered, I first need to share some back story.

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Registered: 06-07-2004
Mon, 06-27-2011 - 9:37am

You stop right now, what you and Chris are doing. If you want to take up with Chris thats fine, but you do it if and when him and his GF are broken up officially. Of course you have to ask yourself, if Chris is doing this to his GF of over a year, then if you and him got together, would he do the same to you after some time? If you think well Chris and I have this special thing together blah blah, I think that she is also thinking the same thing.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 06-27-2011 - 10:18am

I can see why you are doing this--you really like the guy and want him to like you and he is offering some physical affection as well, so you are taking it, hoping this will mean you will end up with him (even if you're not consciously thinking it).

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Mon, 06-27-2011 - 12:31pm

He lived with you for a year and he showed NO interest in you other than "friendship"!

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Registered: 05-23-2010
Mon, 06-27-2011 - 1:28pm

When we lved together we both showed nterest, bt never acted on it because we were roommates and didnt want to complicate things.

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Registered: 05-23-2010
Mon, 06-27-2011 - 1:32pm

And also...

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Registered: 10-03-2007
Mon, 06-27-2011 - 2:16pm
What would be your ideal situation ? Work from there.
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Registered: 06-13-2011
Tue, 06-28-2011 - 10:54am

This is a tough situation.

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Registered: 06-07-2004
Tue, 06-28-2011 - 11:38am

You say you don't want to be the other woman , or hurt his GF in that way. You already are! You do not have to have actual intercourse for their to be cheating. You can even have emotional affairs with no physical component. So you should stop doing anything with him alone unless he officially breaks if off with his GF.

So let me see, he's not the kind of guy who cheats, but wait he already is cheating. So actually yes he is that kind of guy.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Tue, 06-28-2011 - 12:40pm

You don't want him to hurt his "girlfriend" that he lives with?