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What am I doing?
| Sat, 01-24-2004 - 4:17pm |
Hello,
Okay me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and living together for 10 months. To all of my family it seems like this great relationship he wants to get married and have children and the whole nine yards (all over time). But for some reason Im the one that is weird about everything. In the back of my head I keep thinking that I rushed into the relationship and moving in together. Sometimes I think of breaking it off and just being alone again then I really start to think about it and I can't even think about how it would be without him. I do love him very much.
Then I tried to talk to him a couple of different times and things didn't get better. First he got hurt with me and wouldn't talk to me. Then he got mad at me for keeping the relationship going on for so long for nothing. I don't want to hurt him, I can honestly say that I can see myself married to him someday. I just want to make sure that I am making the right decision.
In the back of my head I think if I really loved someone then I wouldn't have doubts about it right?
Help, what should I do?
Okay me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and living together for 10 months. To all of my family it seems like this great relationship he wants to get married and have children and the whole nine yards (all over time). But for some reason Im the one that is weird about everything. In the back of my head I keep thinking that I rushed into the relationship and moving in together. Sometimes I think of breaking it off and just being alone again then I really start to think about it and I can't even think about how it would be without him. I do love him very much.
Then I tried to talk to him a couple of different times and things didn't get better. First he got hurt with me and wouldn't talk to me. Then he got mad at me for keeping the relationship going on for so long for nothing. I don't want to hurt him, I can honestly say that I can see myself married to him someday. I just want to make sure that I am making the right decision.
In the back of my head I think if I really loved someone then I wouldn't have doubts about it right?
Help, what should I do?

Well in my opinion you did. But if you two were getting a long great and both wanted the same future, then it might not matter in the long run.
Did you date a lot before meeting him? Do you feel that you had enough time being single and getting to know yourself?
Maybe you need a break for while.
'First he got hurt with me and wouldn't talk to me.'
Does he do this often? Do you have communication problems in general? He needs to be open to having a conversation about this in an adult way.
Maybe there are other issues besides rushing the relationshipi and even though you love him you feel that you can't commit a lifetime to him.