what am I looking for

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Registered: 10-02-2004
what am I looking for
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Sat, 10-02-2004 - 3:30pm
I am new to this, so am not sure what to say.... I am a 42 year old mother, own my home, and can support myself. I was in a relationship with a man for 1 1/2 years. We still keep in touch once in awhile. We have been split up for 2 years. I am in a new relationship...7 months old. I know this man cares for me. I am not sure if he loves me. I thought I loved him, but now I find I am thinking about my ex more. My boyfriend, is looking more for companionship, I am not sure myself, what I am looking for. How do I know? Please if anyone has any advice, I would appreciate it.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 10-04-2004 - 5:10pm
Sounds like you need more time to heal from the first break up before seriously considering another relationship.

Reading material:

Who Moved My Cheese? Spencer Johnson

The Four Agreements, Miguel Ruiz

Women Who Run with the Wolves, Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Rebuilding When a Relationship Ends, Bruce Fisher

Olive Juice...and Other Thoughts on Love, Heartbreak and Moving Forward by Eric Champnella

My best to you.


Carrie

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-04-2004 - 5:29pm
eternity680...

A little caution with this 2nd relationship isn't necessarily a bad idea. Pianoguy agrees with itwinflame. Read the books and digest the information...BUT...also remember that the more "mature" (I hate the word: older) you get, the longer it takes to 'get over' one person and jump into the arms of another.

Permit yourself adequate time to remove the old socks from the hamper...and wash 'em out thoroughly before you wear 'em again! :)

Best wishes and warm thoughts from..

Pianoguy