What Are These Feelings?

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Registered: 07-16-2007
What Are These Feelings?
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Mon, 07-16-2007 - 1:00am

I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years. I think we have a good relationship for the most part. We don't fight, rarely argue, communicate in healthy ways, spend time together, and respect each other... So why am I here, right?

Lately, I've been thinking a lot about a friend of mine. I think I have a crush on him. We've known each other for about 4 years and are good friends. We see each other every week because we share a hobby. Is it mutual? I'm not sure. Our group of friends are a close-knit, affectionate bunch. Not sure if I'm in denial that he's paying me special attention or if I'm making more out of what is normal behavior.

I'm not going to cheat or jeopardize my friendship. I just don't know what these feelings are about. I can't talk to anyone about this because I don't want it getting back to either my BF or my friend. Anyone else in my shoes? Anyone have any probing, illuminating questions?

Thanks,
Val

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 11:32am

Welcome to the board bella_valentina,


My suggestion is to try to stay away from the friend and see what happens to your feelings for him. It could be that the more time you spend with him the bigger crush you get on him.


Are you and your bf having any problems at all?

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Registered: 07-16-2007
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 2:22pm
The only thing I can think of is that we don't have sex very often. We both seem to have low libidos so we're not clashing on the issue. I realize that sex is an important part of the relationship and we are working to make it better.