What can I do to get ME back?

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Registered: 05-07-2007
What can I do to get ME back?
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Sat, 06-02-2007 - 11:27pm
Before I met my husband I was in a really emotionally and verbally abusive relationship with my daughters sperm donar. Before that I was in several relationships where I was cheated on and my self esteem was shot to the point of suicide. I am now with my husband, have been for almost 3 years and he is a wonderful man. We've had our problems, but generally things are good. The sex is good, but I can't get adventerous and playful with him like I did in the past with others. This is my husband, I should be able to do things with him that I've never been able to do with anyone else. He tells me every day how much he loves me, and is always telling me that he thinks I'm sexy and beautiful. He's very affectionate and I know he loves me. I love him more than anything but I can't seem to find that confident person I used to be. I want to for not only him, but for myself. I can't flirt with him, or seduce him because I feel stupid and self conscious. It's ridiculous. Can you help me?
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 06-05-2007 - 12:21pm

Hi tssmommy and welcome to the board,


Maybe it's time you worked on you to get you back.....short term counseling, some good self-esteem books - pick one or two:


Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy – David D. Burns, MD


How to Raise Your Self-Esteem, Nathaniel Brandon


The Aladdin Factor, Jack Canfield & Mark Victor Hansen


The Magic of Thinking Big, David J. Schwartz


Learning to Love Yourself: Finding Your Self-Worth, by Sharon Wegscheider Cruse


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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 06-05-2007 - 12:57pm

Welcome tssmommy,


I agree with Carrie that some short term counseling could really help you regain your self esteem. Maybe you feel like you have more to lose with your husband than you did with your exes and that is why you are feeling this way.


Good luck finding yourself again.


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