What is considered verbal abuse?

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Registered: 04-14-2008
What is considered verbal abuse?
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Mon, 04-14-2008 - 11:47am

Okay

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 11:51am
There are too many to list... Can you tell us how he talks to you? How does he act when he's angry? Does he get angry often? Do YOU think that you might be being verbally abused? Does he belittle you or make you feel badly about yourself?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 1:23pm

Welcome ladyredskin18,


Here's a list:


Being called names.


Using words to shame. Critical, sarcastic, mocking words meant to put you down either alone or in front of other people.


Yelling, swearing and screaming.


Using threats to intimidate.



Blaming the victim. Someone blows up and then blames you for their actions and behavior. If you were only perfect they wouldn’t lose control!



Your feelings are dismissed. They avoid discussion of any topic where they might have to take responsibility for their actions or words.



You often wonder why you feel so bad. You bury your feelings, walk on egg shells and work so hard at keeping the peace that every day becomes an emotional chore. You feel depressed and have even wondered if you are crazy.



Manipulating your actions. The persistent and intense use of threatening words to get you to do something or act in a way you find uncomfortable.


iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 1:31pm

Welcome to the board,


Do you feel like he is being verbally abusive to you? Can you give us some examples of things he says?

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Registered: 04-14-2008
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 5:39pm
Um he plays like hes calling me a whore but then he is like oh im just playing you know I dont think you are one I was just teasing you. Or incinuates that I'm dumb and that everything is different when it him but if i do something its completely wrong or funny or wtf. Idk I just dont know.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2008
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 5:55pm

He never angry around me or at me its just sometimes sometimes i wonder if the comments he makes that are "jokes" verbal abuse?

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Registered: 04-14-2008
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 5:56pm
Thank you
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 7:24pm
It seems that he may not exactly be abusing you, but he certainly does not have a lot of respect for you. What happens when you ask him to dial back on the deprecating humor? I don't think calling you a whore is even close to funny.
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Registered: 04-14-2008
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 9:35pm
Thank you, ok you definitely have some good advice! I just wanted some verification on whether i was crazy or being completely sane about this whole thing
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 11:34pm
If his "jokes" hurt your feelings and you tell him and he doesnt stop he is bullying you and that is abusive.
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Registered: 04-14-2008
Tue, 04-15-2008 - 6:58am
Thank you for helping me