What could be his problem??

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Registered: 01-11-2008
What could be his problem??
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Mon, 03-31-2008 - 2:19pm

I have posted on these boards before about this man that I am "seeing" and have gotten some good advice. I have another few questions that I need help with. I have been seeing this man for about 7 months now who at the beginning told me that he did not want a commited relationship. We have been dating, going to movies, dinners, breakfasts, etc. and have had sex about 4 months into it. We have gotten really close over the last 3 months or so (after we had sex) and things have been good. Well, here is the thing, I go out every Friday night with my girlfriends to a club, which is where I met him. Everytime Friday comes around he asks me if I am going to go out, which I say yes, and he just laughs and then tells me to have a good time. He seems ok with it, when we speak on Friday's he seems like he is ok with it. He calls me everyday and we never talk about me going out Friday nights so I don't know if there is a problem. Last Friday he went with me and my girlfriends and we drove down together. Everything went well, he met up with his friends and I did with my friends and then we all met up together. He did watch my every move that night, he even stopped on the dance floor to look around to find me. I did talk to men, just innocent talk, and with friends. I danced with men and he danced with women and we even danced together alot of the night. We left together, and all was good. When he picked me and my girlfriend up to go there I was wearing a low cut shirt (as I usually do) and he never mentioned it at all.


Well, same thing happened this weekend. He asked me

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 2:52pm

Could it have been a little cool out that night? Don't

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 5:44pm

I could only guess if he's referring to your shirt or not. He's your best source of information.

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 7:42pm
I am not sure there is a problem except that you don't seek clarification from him about what he is thinking or what he wants. Are you afraid to ask him why he laughs when you say you are going out? Why didn't you ask him what he means about being cold?
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Registered: 03-28-2008
Tue, 04-01-2008 - 11:21am

I'm in agreement with the general consensus here. Don't make assumptions, we women tend to do that. Sit down with him one night and ask him what he wants out of the relationship at this point. Take him at what he says, though. If he tells you something you don't want to hear, don't try to analyze his words. I've learned to take a man's words literally...


Don't lose heart, though. Sounds like he likes you but doesn't know how to say. He needs to be upfront though...

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Registered: 11-10-2007
Tue, 04-01-2008 - 2:02pm
I posted this already but someone deleted it.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 04-01-2008 - 3:12pm
Hey snafu2007, I don't see a deleted post in this thread....I wonder if it was a computer glitch??