What could it be

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Registered: 03-27-2003
What could it be
Fri, 05-30-2003 - 3:43pm
I am going through a problem and I need suggestion on what to do. Ok I have been with my boyfriend for seven years now. We took a break for a year and got back together about five months ago. Ever since we have go back together we have been argueing alot mainly about my trust issues. Here lately he has been actin funny. His whole mood has changed. When I ask him whats wrong he snaps at me. He says he is unhappy with his life and he need time to get his life together. SO he suggest that we just be friends until he can make himself happy. Now this is not what I want because I feel if we become friends I will loose him. I dont know if this is a reasonable excuss or not to want to be friends. I feel that if he is unhappy with his life then we can get through this together. But he doesnt see it that way. Could it be because of someone else? OR should I give him the benefit of the doubt. Please help. Im hurting some much from this and I need some advice.

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Registered: 05-20-2003
Fri, 05-30-2003 - 4:02pm
If he is unhappy then why do you want to get in his way? If you lose him, then it isn't because of something you had any control over. If you lose him, you aren't losing the same man that you dated a long time ago but someone who isn't in a position to have a healthy relationship.

I think you should listen to his words and trusts that he needs to get his life together. Why would he get back together with you if there was another woman?

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Registered: 04-09-2003
Fri, 05-30-2003 - 4:32pm
I think he might have a point here. You can never expect someone else to make you happy, you have to make yourself happy first. If all he wants is to be friends right now, that's all he wants, and he's being truthful. You can't push him to want to reamin a "couple". And it might actually bring you two closer together. Try to find other interests other than him right now, and let him work this out. if he doesn't want your help, all you cn do is be supportive to him if he ask's. Otherwise, you may need to move on with your life. If your love for one another is strong enough, it will all work out. Good Luck!!