What did I do wrong?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2008
What did I do wrong?
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Sun, 04-27-2008 - 11:05am
I can't believe my marriage is ending.

I met the man of my dreams 11 years ago and we were married 10 months later. Now, almost on our 10 year anniversary, he said that he was done with the marriage.


Almost a year ago, he told me that he had fallen out of love with me but wanted to fall back in love with me so bad. He told me our problems and I made moves to rectify them. When things improved with what he was having a problem with, a new problem arose that he wanted me to fix. Everything I did to try and fix whatever was wrong just sprouted a new problem.


He had told me I was too mean to his son. I was strict, I'll admit, but never mean to his child. I treated his child like I would my own and helped raise him for almost 11 years. I asked for advice from my parents and they told me to let him parent the child and I can stay out of it. I did this, and his child and I got along a lot better.


He then was angry because he said I didn't go out and get a better job when he told me to. We moved to Florida from Nebraska almost 3 years ago. I went from 45K to 35K, but ended up getting hired on and have had 2 raises since then and am back up to 40K. I love my job and can get overtime in when I need it and they have great benefits.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2004
Sun, 04-27-2008 - 11:51am

Worstyear, I am sorry, but he doesn't sound like a man who will realize he has made a mistake.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 04-28-2008 - 11:49am

Welcome to the board worstyear2008,


It doesn't sound like he is thinking he made a mistake. It just sounds like he is telling people a little of what is going on and isn't trying to put the blame on either one of you.


I am sorry you are going through this.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-14-2006
Mon, 04-28-2008 - 12:33pm

I have to agree with previous posters.


It also sounds like he made