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| Mon, 12-31-2007 - 10:33am |
hi - im new to the board... I need some advice........
let me cut to the chase..been married for almost 3 years and my husband just came home from doing two years in prison.

Welcome to the board chantelleandzachsmom,
First I have to say that it was your decision to stand by him when he was in prison. This isn't something you had to do. Therefore, you shouldn't expect him to pamper you because you decided to stay with him.
Also my mom was in prison for almost 5 years and we have no idea what they go through while in there. It is normal that it would take them a little bit of them to get used to things once they get out.
Also I don't know what he did, but are you sure you want to be married to someone who went to prison?
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Whether or not I 'deserve' to be with a criminal was not part of my question............
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Its pretty stupid he would
If he had been away for 2 years, perhaps at war or some specialized job far away, would you expect that he cater and pamper you when he returned? Because you had waited for him? Does the fact that he served time in prison make any difference? You said it yourself that people deserve second chances, but it seems that you want him to pay for having left you alone for so long and you want him to make up for lost time.
Maybe he wants to be pampered too having been deprived of everything, including you and
It sounds as though you need to seek professional help with this situation as soon as possible. He is definitely reacting to just coming out of two years in prison, which must have affected him greatly. He needs to work through the after affects of this. He also must learn how to behave with you, (and perhaps the other way around as well). You cannot stay in an abusive situation, but also, he doesn't have to kiss your butt. No one has to be disrespected in anyway because of what they've gone through.
Both individual and couple counselling would be very appropriate now. You do have children and it's certainly worth doing all you can to work out your differences, before you make a decision to part.
The very best wishes,
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C&Z's mom:
Sounds like there is a lot of deep anger inside. Was your relationship like this before he went to prison? Can you only recall the good times? Was he