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| Mon, 10-08-2007 - 11:19pm |
Hello, this is my first time to post. I have been in a relationship for three years and seem to still have disagreements with my b-friend. We are in our thirties and seem to have communication problems. Today he has gone for three days without talking to me and today when I got in front of him standing he spit in my face in front of an older man we have been friends with for years. It made me feel awful and I don't want to leave him, but my friend says I should. Please give my your advice.

Welcome to the board win1bug,
If you are going to stay in this relationship, please insist on couples counseling.
You should leave him. After three years, if you're still having the same old arguments, you're right - there are either deep communication problems, or you are fundamentally incompatible. Arguments should end with you knowing more about one another, and coming to an agreement or compromise. You shouldn't keep coming back to the same old problems.
The fact that he spit in your face... I wouldn't even do that to an animal. If you're okay with being treated like a sidewalk pavement, or dirt, then by all means stay with this guy, but it's obvious that he's shown you how much respect he has for you and you'd be very, very foolish to stay with him. Men like this do not improve.
You're one of the "but I love him" crowd that is probably a majority of women out there. Most of them, willing to make excuses and justifications for their men's bad behavior. Take a stand for yourself and refuse to be treated like crap. Let this boy find a woman whose respect equals his own, or better yet, let him be single for the rest of his life. Women need to be strong, independent people who are happy on their own and don't lean on love or other men in order to stand up. Be your own person, win1bug, because if you can't stand up for yourself then no one else is going to.
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