What to Do?

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Registered: 06-24-2004
What to Do?
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Thu, 06-24-2004 - 10:30pm
I've been w/my boyfriend for over a year and half. For the past few months, he hasn't been showing up when he says he will. Then he'll avoid me for a day or two until I'm finally able to get a hold of him. He tells me it's b/c I made him too mad, it's b/c of too much stress w/his work and/or family, or he fell asleep. He wont call me b/c he says he didn't want to hear it. I ask him if he wants to end it and he says no. He tells me he wants a future w/me and doesn't want to lose me. He says he knows it's wrong & makes the promise that he wont do it again, and he does. We hardly spend any time together any more b/c he's either working, stands me up, or sleeping. He keeps saying everything will get better. I don't know how much more of this I can take. I know I love him. I don't want to ruin a future w/him if this is just something he's going through and will work out. I have no idea what to do.
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Registered: 05-20-2003
In reply to: barbie0308
Thu, 06-24-2004 - 10:36pm
Tell him that until he can show you respect by giving you the attention you deserve and showing up on time and returning your phone calls in a timely manner (you aren't asking too much)you will assume he wants out of the relationship and go on with your life. Then do just that-see your friends more, get involved, get a hobby, etc. Get busy and do something more productive then waiting for the phone to ring.

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Registered: 09-26-2003
In reply to: barbie0308
Fri, 06-25-2004 - 8:18am

Has he considered seeing a doctor?Stress, loss of interest in certain things, and excessive sleeping are all classic signs of depression. Either way, his disrespect needs to end and you need to be firm on that. I would let him know where you syand and stick to it...if he doenst want to try to work at this, then its not worth your time either. Its clear that you care, but you cant be someones doormat.