what to do

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Registered: 06-09-2004
what to do
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Wed, 06-09-2004 - 7:23pm
I am new here, but I have been dating this guy since the begining of Novemeber. Things where going great, he was always over here. We went out to dinner, my parents loved him, his parents loved me. Everything was great. We shared everything.

Now all of a sudden, its like things did a 180, he wont tell me things, doesnt come around nearly as much. He says he is happy with me but not with himself. He claims he doesnt know what is going on and why he isnt happy. I have told him I will stay around until he figures out what ever it is that is eatting at him. I think that part of me does love him. And I think that part of him loves me. But he says he wont let himself trust me. I have never done anything for him not to trust me. He knows just about everything that I do. And he is really great when I am having a bad day or what ever. But I just dont know how much longer I can stay around and not know what is going on. As he has said he doesnt know if he will still want to be with me when he figures out what is going on. I know that if I leave now or later, I will end up being the one hurt. So I am now sure if I should prolong this agony or not. If anyone has any suggestions it would be really apperciated.

Thanks

Dani
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Registered: 04-02-2004
In reply to: fl_girlie98
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 10:01pm
The best thing you can do right now, is to give him his space, not to act clingy, and try to distract yourself with other things to get you through this tough time.

This happens, and it is a natural evolution of a relationship when the other person is really starting to care about you. He is like kind of rebelling, but it is not big deal.

Stay strong. Give him his freedom, he will come back. Sounds like he really cares.