What to do?

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Registered: 01-12-2007
What to do?
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Wed, 10-15-2008 - 2:18pm

I have been very distant from my husband. I always feel so angry. I don't know why and it keeps getting worse. I almost rather do anything but spend time with him, he just annoys me. I don't know why every thing he does just makes me mad. Do you have any sugestions on what I can do to help me get to the bottom of why I feel this way.


Thanks

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: stilettobabe
Wed, 10-15-2008 - 4:50pm

Welcome to the board stilettobabe,


What's been going on in your relationship?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: stilettobabe
Wed, 10-15-2008 - 5:47pm

Anger arises from feelings that have no been aired and worked out, from unmet needs and expectations. Why not start communicating, both with him and with yourself. Find out what you're so angry at about him. Sit down and write it out. Make a list - say, I am angry with --because ---. Let yourself know. Then separate your real and unreal expectations. See if you what you want can really be fulfilled by him or if it's something you need to fulfill on your own? Sometimes we turn to a person to meet all our needs. This isn't realistic and causes a lot of anger and withdrawal. It's a good idea to face what's truly going on, communicate about it, and see what can be worked out. Holding onto anger is bad in many, many ways.


All good wishes,