What to do? ex as friends?
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What to do? ex as friends?
| Thu, 02-26-2004 - 6:34pm |
My boyfriend or should I say ex, have been dating for 10 months or so. I must say we never really fought and we get along great. I had a party this weekend and at the end of the party my boyfriend got really upset because I ignored him at the party. The problem is I didn't mean to do it on purpose I just happened to be the host and had to talk to all my guests, there were about 70 or so people there. I explained that to him but he said his feelings were hurt. Instead of working it out the next day he said he was so upset with me he doesn't know if we should see each other anymore. He said he is confused and maybe we should just be friends yet he does care for me deeply and still sees me in a romantic sense but said we needed a break. I couldn't believe he overreacted like he did so I said that was fine and that I think we shouldn't see each other for a few weeks or even talk while he figures things out. I told him to not call me unless he missed me or wanted to talk. Well he called two days later and asked me to lunch. I went thinking we could work this out butnstead we talked about everything except for us. I didn't want to push him into a corner but he never mentioned anything. I said goodbye and to take care, he then said 'well this was fun let's do it again soon." I just said okay and drove away. I am so confused, does he want to just be friends? does he need time to figure things out? What do I do? I can't handle being friends because I care too much for him but I don't want to ruin whatever we chances we have to repair this. Sorry this is long but any advice?

You need to ask him. If you guys are as close as you say you are then you can have a conversation and get clarity.
Did he really break up with you over your behavior at one party or was it about much more?
He said it opened his eyes up. He's very insecure because he is changing careers so he doesn't have much money right now and he's almost 30 and is worried he doesn't have much to show. I know he thinks he can't offer much and figures I will find someone else (he told this to a friend of mine). At the party many guys flirted with me but I ignored them as I care for only him. I want to ask him if we are just friends now or what but I am afraid if I ask him now he we feel like I am giving him an ultimatum and freak out. Do i just wait to see if he calls again and ask?