what do i do?

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Registered: 09-19-2007
what do i do?
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Wed, 09-19-2007 - 12:01pm

I met my husband almost 3 years ago.

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In reply to: hdmomma10
Wed, 09-19-2007 - 12:33pm

Welcome to the board hdmomma10,


Your husband isn't doing his children any favors by letting them behave this way. Ask your husband to go to parenting classes with you. Family counseling might also be very helpful.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: hdmomma10
Wed, 09-19-2007 - 1:46pm

Welcome to the board hdmomma10,


I agree with Coltara about the parenting class and/or counseling.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
In reply to: hdmomma10
Wed, 09-19-2007 - 6:36pm

Do you honestly think that your "soul mate" would allow you to be stolen from and taken advantage of? No, someone who really belongs with you will stick up for you when you're being hurt.

Oftentimes it is the dad who gets to be the "good guy" after a divorce by allowing his kids to walk all over him so that they favor him over their mother. This is neither healthy nor wise. It is also unfair of him to make you into the disciplinarian. You are not their mother. He should be #1 to discipline his kids and put his foot down about their behavior. If you are the only one in the household with any rules or intolerance for breaking them, that makes you into the "bad guy" and he gets off clean. That's a pretty terrible way to run things.

I totally agree about parenting classes and/or counseling together. You need an unbiased party to help you come to a compromise regarding who plays what role in your house, earning the respect of your stepkids, and giving him an idea of what discipline for his kids should involve.