what do i do???

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Registered: 11-19-2006
what do i do???
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Tue, 05-08-2007 - 1:24pm
Im having a bit of a problem. Ive been with my fiance for almost a year now and im finding it hard to believe that he will stay in love with me. He is such a great guy, actually, he's almost close to perfect.! I just dont know why he's with ME. I worry myself everyday that he will find someone else or meet someone else that is just as great as he is-who is better than me. Its become a problem in our relationship. Its like i cant even get excited about us being engaged because im afraid if i do it will all fall apart. I just dont want to get my hopes up! what do i do????
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Registered: 09-19-2002
In reply to: nikkit7
Tue, 05-08-2007 - 2:50pm

It sounds like you have a bad case of insecurities. But why? What are you telling yourself that you feel so unworthy of receiving love? Have you ever been diagnosed with depression?

Before you fall apart, I urge you to find a counselor to figure out what it is inside you that is telling you that you are not worthy. You need to find out what it is and address it before you embark on a marriage.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: nikkit7
Tue, 05-08-2007 - 5:30pm

Welcome to the board nikkit7,


It sounds like you have really low self esteem. You don't believe that you deserve love and deserve someone as good as your fiance. The truth is that you do and you need to tell yourself that.


I suggest finding a counselor to help your overcome this.


Good luck.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: nikkit7
Wed, 05-09-2007 - 3:19pm

You need to go to therapy and work on your relationship with yourself. What is it that you feel falls short? It's sad that you cannot see what it is he sees in you. This is what has to be handled. It won't make any difference if you run away from the relationship, you'll still carry your bad feelings about yourself along. Handle them. Explore what it is that causes you to feel this way. It's very important that you do so. Obviously, he loves and cares for you because he is with you. Your feelings of insecurity have nothing to do with him, but with yourself and past experienecs and thoughts. Don't tell him about them. Get a therapist and work it out. Both of you will feel a lot better then.


Best wishes,