What do I do?

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Registered: 03-19-2004
What do I do?
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Fri, 03-19-2004 - 9:08am
I Have been married to a girl for four years. We have been seperated for about a month now. Last monday she called me and we hooked up and started getting back together now she is pushing me away again and I don't know what to do. She is not totally rejecting me but kind of going back and forth with it. Last night she told me she left me because she had an affair, which hurt me but I told her it was okay. This is the 3rd affair she has had.the first was before we were married and the second was with my best friend. Last night we talked briefly about seeing a marriage counselor but when I left she said she didn't know if she would see me for the next 2 days. When she left her technique for leaving was to say insulting things to me. I asked her why she did this and she told me that if I was upset by her that I wouldn't want to be with her. Insulting me had the affect of upsetting but it didn't make me not want to be with her. I feel as though I have no say in our relationship because regardless I love her and want to be with her, but she doesn't show me any respect because she knows that no matter what I will take her back. I want to work on our problems but I don't know how.


Edited 3/19/2004 11:09 am ET ET by flite29
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Registered: 03-19-2004
In reply to: flite29
Fri, 03-19-2004 - 9:41am
I wanted to add that I think this would have been much easier if she had talked to me about things that were bothering her before having the affairs. She never let me know what she was thinking, and when she did finally, mostly it was pretty simple stuff that we could have worked out if she would hav etalked to me, but I can't work on something that I don't know is a problem. Now though, with the way things were handled, a whole new and mor complicated set of problems had arisen.
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Registered: 09-26-2003
In reply to: flite29
Fri, 03-19-2004 - 10:21am

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