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What do I do???
| Mon, 01-19-2004 - 2:36pm |
Hi everyone. I am new to this site and I am hoping to get good advice from women who have maybe been in my situation before.
My boyfriend and I have been together for only 3 months, but I really love him and think that if we can make this work there will be a great future for us. The problem is he has a history of drug abuse... meth to be exact and when we got together I told him that it was drugs or me, becuase I didn't want to a part of that world and have that kind of life. He actually did really well for a long time and then about 2 weeks ago we were at a mutual friends house (who is also a user) and Marc (myy boyfriend) did it right in front of me! I was furious and when I asked him how long he had been doing this behind my back he said he had only done it a few times. But now I feel like I can't trust him with anything. I feel like whenever I am not around he is doing something wrong. Even though I can tell when he is on it because of his figgity feet and mouth, I am always suspecting. Now I have moved on to things like wondering if he is cheating on me or what else he has lied about. I dont know if I just have anxiety about things or if I am right to think this. I love him and dont want to lose him but I can't be with a guy that I can't trust so someone please help. Should I move past it and trust him again or should I kick him to the curb.
My boyfriend and I have been together for only 3 months, but I really love him and think that if we can make this work there will be a great future for us. The problem is he has a history of drug abuse... meth to be exact and when we got together I told him that it was drugs or me, becuase I didn't want to a part of that world and have that kind of life. He actually did really well for a long time and then about 2 weeks ago we were at a mutual friends house (who is also a user) and Marc (myy boyfriend) did it right in front of me! I was furious and when I asked him how long he had been doing this behind my back he said he had only done it a few times. But now I feel like I can't trust him with anything. I feel like whenever I am not around he is doing something wrong. Even though I can tell when he is on it because of his figgity feet and mouth, I am always suspecting. Now I have moved on to things like wondering if he is cheating on me or what else he has lied about. I dont know if I just have anxiety about things or if I am right to think this. I love him and dont want to lose him but I can't be with a guy that I can't trust so someone please help. Should I move past it and trust him again or should I kick him to the curb.

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Well he has chosen drugs. What will you choose? A boyfriend who does drugs or a life without this stress and distrust?
Personally I would not be with a man who did anything beyond drink a few beers a week or smoke a joint once in awhile. I don't want any of the probablems that come along with addiction and hard drug use.
Wow, he is not going to change overnight, he has an addiction and he needs to get his life in order before he can enter into any relationship.
James
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