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| Mon, 08-13-2007 - 9:48am |
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Edited 8/14/2007 12:32 pm ET by aryaflower1986
Edited 8/14/2007 12:32 pm ET by aryaflower1986
| Mon, 08-13-2007 - 9:48am |
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I suggest you go get some counseling for yourself so that you can work on your feelings of lonliness and inadequacy.
Many will tell you to 'fess up to your husband. I am NOT one of those people. I think it would be extremely selfish of you to devastate your husband in order to cleanse your conscience.
Go to church, confess to God if you need to, and redouble your efforts to fix your marriage.
Would your husband be willing to go to marriage counseling with you? Since you are unhappy enough to stray, I'd say you're unhappy enough to seek marriage counseling.
Oh, and fwiw, depending on the state you live in, he couldn't just take your child away from you just because you're a SAHM and because it was "your fault". Being a SAHM actually works in your favor as far as custody goes. But if you really decide to confess, go see a lawyer to find out what your rights are.
Welcome to the board aryaflower1986,
I agree with the previous poster about the ability or, lack there
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Your husband cannot win custody of your daugher just because you cheated. It's important that you know that because in my opinion you need to tell him the truth. He was honest from the start about what he would do if you cheated and now you have to face to consequences. Lying about it will only make it worse.
Thom
This response will probably get deleted but I have to agree with it
You made the choice to cheat on your husband, no matter what justification you want to tie onto it. You made this mess, clean it up. Tell him what you did and give him the option to continue being married to a cheater or find someone else who deserves him. You've probably ruined your marriage but you have to wonder - maybe that is the best for both of you. Cheating during a time when you are supposed to be making things better between you and building trust is really sad and inexcusable. I think you should come clean to him because he deserves way better than this.
I hope you at least thought to have protected sex.
Your husband cannot take your daughter away because you cheated. This could hurt you in the division of marital assets, if you have any, but it won't hurt you with custody. You do have a very real problem supporting yourself if your marriage breaks up. If I were you, I would give some serious thought about re-entering the job market. It could be that you are feeling isolated and bored, and a job could be good for you and good for your marriage.
I also hope you had protected sex, but even if you did, make an appointment with your physician and get tested for sexually transmitted diseases. Some diseases can be transmitted even with protected sex. If you find you do have a disease, you MUST tell your husband at that point.
Cat
Mom to 5: DS-17, DD-16, DD-11, DD-9, DS-7
mradvice,
Please edit out your post to delete the vuglar name-calling, per the terms of iVillage rules.
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Edited 8/13/2007 5:00 pm ET by cl-ctara19811
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