What do I do now?

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Registered: 06-30-2007
What do I do now?
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Sat, 06-30-2007 - 11:48am
Hi. I am new to this discussion board. I have been married to my "high-school sweetheart" for 4 years. We have a 16 month old son who is the light of both of our lives. My husband has become a different person since just before we got married. He used to write love notes, and send me flowers just because. Now, I am lucky to get cards from him on occasions, and REALLY lucky if he writes a little note in them. We spend most of our time away from each other. He will be down in the basement and I will be playing with our son. I have been really unhappy in this marriage for about 2 years. He gets really angry over stupid little stuff. For example, one morning when he was getting ready for work, he got really pissed off because there were no paper towels in the kitchen, and he started swearing and throwing stuff. He would never do anything to harm me or our son, but he is violent towards objects. I have tried talking to him about this many many times, he has gotten on medication for depression, but I still don't like my son being around him when he is in a bad mood. I don't want my son to think that he can get pissed at the littlest things, I want him to be more calm and rational about things. My husband also does not do enough around the house to help me with cleaning, and he spends little or no time with our son. He will come home from work, crash on the couch, and watch tv. I have tried getting him to eat dinner at the dinner table as a family, but he insists on watching tv and eating on tv trays. That is not the family environment I want for my son. I don't know what else to do. We have tried counseling, but he only says he is going for me, and he doesn't ever want to talk about things, we only let stuff build up and then we get angry at each other. HELP!!!!!!!
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Registered: 06-26-2007
Sun, 07-01-2007 - 12:35am

lips

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 07-01-2007 - 4:29pm

Welcome to the board mom_jen25,


If he's on meds is he under a doctor's care? If so, it's time to go back to the doctor. His angry outbursts are not going to go away on their own. Sounds like he needs anger management.


I strongly recommend counseling.

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Registered: 10-06-2010
Sun, 07-01-2007 - 5:38pm
How can your son be the light of his life when he rarely plays with him and won't help you out with things around the house that have to do with your son?