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| Tue, 02-05-2008 - 10:17am |
I have been friends with a neighbor for 6 months now. He has been giving me mixed signals for the entire time that I have known him. When I first met him I thought that he would ask me out but that never happened. He has been divorced for about a year now. When I ask him about dating, he always tells me that he is not ready yet that he needs some time. He said that he only wants to be friends at this point. However tthree weeks ago he came over my house and we ended up having sex together. Afterwards we were sitting together on the couch holding hands and at one point he squeezed my hand . The next thing I know he got up quickly and left my house in a hurry. He called me as soon as he got home that night. A week ago it happened again, he came over my house and we had sex again. He seemed really into the moment, it seemed like we really connceted. He kissed me goodbye and things just seemed like they would be different. I let a week go by and he never mentioned it in conversation, which i was surprised. I brought it up in a conversation and he didn't want to talk about it. We got in an argument over it, I told him that I felt he played with my feelings etc. He said it was a mistake and that it won't happen again. When I asked what his feeling were, he couldn't answer me. He has been avoiding me now. I have known him for 6 months. During that time we had a lot of really nice conversations and have gotten to know each other. Did he just want a friends with benefits situation??? If so why would he wait six months for that?? For the past six months he would call me almost every day. When I pressed him for an answer on what happened, he doesn't know what to say so he has been avoiding me. Am I wasting my time. I really like him and I know he is attracted to me.

Welcome to the board ptj05,
I hate to say it, but it sounds like he was just interested in the sex and that he didn't want to take it any further than that. He is okay with being friends and having sex, but doesn't want to talk about a relationship or anything serious. Sorry.
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Welcome to the board pjt05,
Sorry to say, he's told you he's not ready for a relationship.