What to do, I'm ruining it all....

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Registered: 01-01-2008
What to do, I'm ruining it all....
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Tue, 01-01-2008 - 6:46pm

I need some advice please I'm

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 01-01-2008 - 8:56pm

Clearly being in this area is bringing out the worst in both of you.

"I don't know how to fix it. "

I think you do. You need to get away from Texas, with or without him. If he will come with you then great, if not then you should end your relationship. While I think there are deeper issues at stake than just location, namely an inability to get over your own past, those are huge issues to tackle and I don't think anyone could blame you if you always associated this place with the death of you fiance. That is a giant emotional obstacle and if being away from TX helps you... Then I think you absolutely must move.

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Registered: 08-06-2007
Wed, 01-02-2008 - 10:30am

It sounds like you need to have a heart-to-heart talk with him. The trouble in your past is making you seek security. When he's away for so long, you have lost control of him and that makes you frustrated and insecure. I can totally understand how this would make you lash out. Do you have friends in TX? People to confide in? I agree that moving back to GA might help but the other issues need to be addressed.


If you tell him how you feel and that you don't like who you have become, maybe he will open up. If he loves you, he will want to help you feel more secure. Also, you need to have people outside of the relationship that you can talk to. If you have a "life" of your own, you will feel more confident in yourself. It's not going to be an easy fix, but it can be done. Good luck!

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Wed, 01-02-2008 - 1:02pm
You ned some therapy regardless of where you are. Were you really content and not jealous before Texas???
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 01-02-2008 - 1:49pm

Welcome to the board brknhalo22,


I think it would be best for you if you started some counseling. Moving to Texax shouldn't have caused you to change so much. If it did, than it is time to start facing and conquering those demons because if you don't they will continue to ruin all of your relationships.

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