What to do... or what not to do

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Registered: 07-13-2005
What to do... or what not to do
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Tue, 06-12-2007 - 1:36pm

I could really use some advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for about three years now and we’re both in our mid 20’s. Last night we got in a big fight about housework that just escalated out of control. It eventually escalated to him calling me a liar because about a week ago I had asked him if there was any validity to the rumors that he’d had an affair with his best friend’s wife before they married - shortly before we got together. I told him that I honestly didn’t care but because I’d heard about it, and we spend so much time with them, I’d prefer to know the real story. Last night he blurted out that I was just a “lying wh*re on a fishing expedition” and started calling me names. I got so angry that I jumped up and yelled that it was his best friend that told me about it. At that I stormed out to go for a walk.

By the time I got home he had called his friend and ripped him apart for “lying to his girlfriend and thinking so ill of him.” Of course the best friend denied ever having said such a thing to me.

So now I’m pretty sure his friendship is over and that my boyfriend isn’t sure if it’s his friend lying or if I was looking for an easy way out of the relationship.

The coup de gras is that we were all supposed to go on vacation together in a week and a half.

At this point I don’t know what to do. I’m disappointed that I’ve been looking forward to this vacation for months (my first real vacation ever) and it’s ruined. I don’t even know where to start to work on things with my boyfriend – or if I’m even 100% sure I want to at this point. I can’t believe he called his friend up to pick a fight with him at 10 o’clock last night while we were still in the middle of one. I’m extremely disappointed, and of course exhausted with being up fighting all night and at work early this morning. I’m also plagued by the slight sense of karma-justice in that at times in the past my bf has expressed the belief (and actions) that it’s perfectly fine to lie to me if no discernable harm can come from the lie and it’s to protect my feelings but now he’s sooo crush over someone lying to him.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 1:54pm

Welcome to the board curious,


A slight sense of karma, oh boy, he's got more coming I would imagine. Wait until someone starts calling him names.