What to do? We're in a funk!
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What to do? We're in a funk!
| Sat, 01-03-2004 - 1:33pm |
My SO has lived with me 4 months now. We were talking last week about things and he said he wants to fall totally in love with me and wants me to be more creative. Is this something he has to do on his own or can I help him through this? He said he does love me and does anything I need help with or he does things without asking me. Can I make this work? He wants this to work too! We've been together over 4 years now and feel he is scared of making a total commitment to me with marrying me cuz he got hurt bad in a previous marriage that ended 5 years ago(family & friends agree with me).He has brought this up many times but then falls back. When can I do to help make our romance more passion and spicy instead of the same old thing all the time? We're both going through financial struggles right now and he's in a zone he says. What can I do to liven things up here? Also, our sex life hasn't too great lately as well.

He's mentioned of wanting to not move out, and still plans on helping me repaint my house, do the backyard(finally landscape it), lay tile,etc. He also pays half the bills too, like it's ours. He says he is totaly committed to me this way like if we were married but yet he wont do it.
He has land free and clear he plans on building a house on and wants me to go with him while he builds it(6 months) and possibly live there when he gets it done. It's in Northern Cal and we live in AZ. I'm more than willing to do this but only if he gets me a ring and marries me. I can't just give up a great paying job and rent my house out and leave. He told me he knows I'd be sacrificing a lot to do this for him and if I really love him I'd do it. I told him I have a lot to give up without a commitment.
I feel when he's ready to go build and has permits pulled, if he wont give me a ring, to just set him free. I can't up and leave everything I have for something that isnt sure!