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| Sat, 09-04-2004 - 4:18am |
I've known my ex-boyfriend for almost 3.5 yrs. We've dated for almost 3 yrs and we lived together almost 2.5 yrs. He's my best friend, and I can honestly say he knows me better than anyone. I have had a few long term relationships before but he hasn't. His family owns a business and he is learning how to take over everything, so he deals with a lot of issues with that. We've never really argued, we do have disagreements occasionally but we've always just talked through them. We used to do things alot together but lately with his work and me going back to school, we haven't had much time. Through our whole relationship though, we had always said if we had any issues with each other we would discuss them.
Here's the actual story:
I wake up one morning, take a shower and go downstairs. It's one of his few days off for the month, so he's there watching tv. I try to talk to him but he's not in a talking mood (that's one of the ways he copes with work issues), usually I'm ok with that but that morning I got a little miffed. So I go back upstairs, and after a minute he comes up and says we need to talk. Then he tells me that he wants a break and I need to leave. He loves me but he doesn't think we are supposed to be together. It's not anything I have or haven't done, he just feels weird. He doesn't know what's going to happen but I don't need to wait for him. He's doing this because I've been unhappy and he thinks it's his fault. I asked him how long he's been thinking about this and he said he had been feeling like something was wrong for awhile but he had decided to get me to leave just that morning.
That was about a month ago. I've talked to him a couple of times a week since then. I'm trying not to call him, most of the time it's him calling me. He's told me 2 or 3 times that he loves me and he will always have feelings for me. I do know he's not dating anyone else. I have asked him about going to counseling and he said he didn't think he was ready for that yet.
I really don't know what to think, this was a total surpise. I think we were both under a little more stress than usual but nothing that warranted this. We had talked about our future together many times so I was rather shocked with all of this.

I don't have any answers or anything for you but I just wanted to let you know that I am going through the exact same thing right now -- right down to the break-up lines!