What does he really mean??

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Registered: 06-14-2007
What does he really mean??
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Fri, 06-15-2007 - 12:10am

Can someone explain him?

I've been in this relationship for almost four years. He had asked if I saw us getting married and if this was something we could discuss. we set aside some time to talk as he wanted. During our discussion I did say I saw us getting married and having a future together but before we said our 'I Dos' I wanted to talk about some of the issues in our relationship and how we can improve them. One being communication...both of us seem to bottle things up until they explode into a huge argument. His response was basically that marriage should just happen and it shouldn't have to be discussed. Interesting since he was the one that suggested we talk about marriage. He has done this before. Says one thing but then totally contradicts himself in the next sentence. Unfortunately things he contradicts himself on are big items such as marriage. I guess I don't understand how you can say one thing today and a totally different thing tomorrow and not expect the other person to be a little confused. I've put this in front of him before but it keeps happening. Am I missing something he's trying to tell me does he have some loose marbles rolling around in his head??

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-15-2007 - 3:17pm

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WHAT???? So how does it just "happen" does he think? It doesn't just happen. First of all, he has to ASK!! Has he never heard about the 'work' that marriage takes?

If he REALLY has this view, you might want to think twice about marrying him.

As for the contradictions, I'm lost on this one. Could be that this is his way of cutting off the conversation because it's not going the way he'd hoped (maybe he doesn't want to hear about working on communication).

Either that, or he DOES have some marbles loose!!

If this is the way he continues to NOT communicate, you may want to rethink your relationship. It WON'T last with his attitude.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 06-15-2007 - 6:20pm

Welcome to the board newme11,


On the contradictions, you'll laugh, but I wonder if his Moon is in Gemini....happens lot with them.


When you 'put it in front of him' what does he say?