What does he really want?

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Registered: 06-07-2004
What does he really want?
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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:26pm
I have been with my boyfriend for 1 yr. About a month ago he became very busy with work and I have not been able to see him or spend anytime with him for this whole month. Rercently I wnet out w/ friends and drank too much. SInce then, he has decided that I should do my own thing he should do his own thing and if I want to go out then call him. I asked him if we were done then, if he had broken up with me and he said "I didn't say that, I said what I just said, I promise when I get back into town, we will sit down and talk soon to discuss this more. I am even more confused b/c I feel that he doesn't know what he wants he says "do your thing etc... but No, I didn't say we're done? what kind of relationship is that? Do I love him? very much! I am just trying to get through this month that I have not been with him or barely talked to him
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 6:02pm
dragonbtrfly...

Pianoguy wonders something? Do you drink A LOT? And if you do...DO YOU GET UGLY or VERBAL?

Your b/f might have had his 'fill' of this behavior...and is keeping his distance from you until YOU DRY OUT!

Keep in mind that most men don't know what to do in the presence of a woman who drinks too much! We can't belt you, but if you ramble continuously (due to the alcohol)...WE CAN'T SHUT YOU UP EITHER!

Give this behavior of yours a little thought...and make the choice...the boyfriend or the booze?

Pianoguy

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Registered: 07-31-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 11:18pm

Hey there,


Were you having problems before you went out and got really drunk? I think that there was already tension with him working a lot and not being around. People pull away for different reasons, and it could be a combination of stuff. He also could just be crazy stressed out, who knows?


Well, you won't know until you two get an opportunity to talk. So, go out have fun, but within limits. Keep yourself in check, act like you are still in

 

-amy-    "CL-fiesty"

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Registered: 06-07-2004
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 1:44pm
That's just it pianoguy, I barely drink. I never drink like that,it was just one night of hanging out with new friends who were not good friends after all.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 5:05pm
dragonbtrfly...

You're not eternally doomed to a life of alcoholism (unless you want that)?

It probably wouldn't hurt to make a few alterations in your personality though. When people "label you" one way or another...the glue on that label is often difficult to remove!

If you try to reshape your image...and stick to the plan...your life will improve little by little. Best of luck....

Pianoguy

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Registered: 06-09-2004
Sat, 06-12-2004 - 12:08pm
Is your boyfriend out of town on a job assignment? Perhaps you are unsure where you stand because your bf is away so long. Do you find he doesn't call very often? Your relationship is still very young, he may be trying decide where he's at in all this too and taking some time to do that. Hard to tell.