What does he want? So confused

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Registered: 10-27-2007
What does he want? So confused
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Fri, 10-10-2008 - 8:58pm
I am so bewildered by my man. I know that men are basically simple creatures, but I have to say, I've dated a lot of men, and my husband is by FAR the most complicated man I have ever met! One moment he's ready to start a family (finally, after lots of convincing) and the next minute he says that 'things are just too volatile financially to start a family now.' I try to tell him that we can't let that govern our decision on having a family, or we will NEVER start, and he just acts very quiet and steams about my remarks. It's like it takes constant convincing on my part to try to get something really important to me out of this relationship - kids - but it's getting to be like pulling teeth to do so. We will have a conversation about it and will be 'trying' to get pregnant for a few weeks, and then he will
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 10-10-2008 - 9:07pm

I'm so sorry but it sounds like you are going to have to move on again.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 10-10-2008 - 9:24pm

Welcome to the board abstract_artist,


Your husband isn't complicated.

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Registered: 08-30-2008
Fri, 10-10-2008 - 11:10pm
If you have to convince someone to have children with you, then it may be that you are with the wrong person.
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sat, 10-11-2008 - 1:41am

Abstract_artist, your husband isn't confusing.

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Registered: 05-11-2008
Sat, 10-11-2008 - 7:39am

I agree with the others; he doesn't want children "just yet" and he only says "yes" when succumbing to serious pressure by you, and you don't want to talk someone who doesn't want children into having them.