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What does it mean?
| Wed, 09-08-2004 - 3:50am |
So my boyfriend of almost 2 years tells me that he really loves me and cares for me. He says he loves spending time with me. He says that he cares for my happiness. So what's wrong? He says that something is missing from our relationship. He thinks that he's not good enough for me and I tell him that it isn't so. I try to reassure him that he's just perfect the way he is. One thing I'm afraid of is that I found out to late that I just love him for who he is and that I have taken his love for granted in the beginning of our relationship. He tells me that I deserve better, but I tell him that he is better and that he's all I want. He kept on saying that he wasn't what I wanted, but I told him that what he thinks I want isn't. All I wanted was right there in front of me, him. I ask him what is it that's missing and he says he doesn't know. He says that it was there in the beginning and now it's gone. It sounds as if he's fallen out of love with me, but he says that he still really cares about me and wants me in his life. It's confusing and it doesn't make sense. Just a few days ago you wouldn't have been able to tell anything was wrong. He was so loving towards me.
Could it possibly be that he just doesn't know what it is he wants in his life right now? And plus we are still very young, he is 23 and I'm 22. I know that we still have a lifetime ahead of us, but he and I know that we have/had something good going on. Could it possibly be that he's just unsure about himself? Or that he's afraid of this relationship possibly getting too serious?
Could it possibly be that he just doesn't know what it is he wants in his life right now? And plus we are still very young, he is 23 and I'm 22. I know that we still have a lifetime ahead of us, but he and I know that we have/had something good going on. Could it possibly be that he's just unsure about himself? Or that he's afraid of this relationship possibly getting too serious?
He was the first to say those three words. He was the one that said love has risks and if you don't take them you'll never find out what it could have been. He was the one that made the relationship seem as if it should be serious.
And now... I just don't know what it is he wants and I know that's what it is... So how can I help him to help our relationship? Is it too late? Does he really want to give up? I'm hoping he doesn't...
Confused and heartbroken,
Shiri
(I also posted this in Ask Mr. Answer Man)
