What does it take to change?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-03-2004
What does it take to change?
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Thu, 05-06-2004 - 1:49pm
Well, my boyfriend cheated on me about a year ago and I must admit, when we got back together to try to make it work, he has and still is doing everything he said he would. He got rid of any female friends he has. He doesnt talk to any women at work (she was a co worker) about anything other than business. We live together so its easy to see his change from before. Although hes being so good right now, is this a honey moon period or is this for real? And if it is for real, do I need to worry about him reverting back to himself after hes had enough?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 2:47pm
If you are looking for a guarantee that his change will be permanent, that is impossible for anyone to give. It takes constant and committed action on his behalf to stick with the positive change. It also takes FROM YOU respect for him as a person, acceptance and recognition that he is contributing value to the better good of your relationship. Your actions will play a large role in this over the long term.