What to do.....Scared for kids

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-15-2004
What to do.....Scared for kids
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Thu, 11-08-2007 - 3:14pm

Ok... to make a really long story short I have been married to my second husband for 3 years. I am 27 and he is 37.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 11-08-2007 - 3:45pm

Welcome to the board cooterdog,


Your husband is verbally and physically abusive. Not to mention the drugs and alcohol. Please call 1-800-977-SAFE and let them tell you how to get away from him and how to protect your children, thankfully, you have a place to go.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Thu, 11-08-2007 - 8:24pm

As the mother of very young kids, your most important role in life is to take care of the two human beings who depend on you to be able to live. Mother first, then wife. Any time you're scared for your children, you need to GET OUT of the situation you're in. They need you to be there for them and protect them.

If he can hurt you, the person who is #1 in his life, then he can hurt your children. Temporarily sever your ability to feel emotions for him, if you have to, because you need to make decisions for the welfare of your kids right now.

He will not have unsupervised visits of your children with an abusive past.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 11-09-2007 - 2:01pm

Welcome to the board cooterdog,


You need to get out of this

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2006
Fri, 11-09-2007 - 3:51pm
Get out. Why are you even second guessing your decision when you have a place to go? Get a restraining order, get a lawyer and get help with the kids.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-04-2008
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 8:48pm

I noticed that you have not been on in awhile and I hope that you are ok. I will keep you in my prayers and hope that God guides you thru this tuff decision. I know that it is hard. I can see what you are going thru and you will in the end do what is best for your children, even if you don't do it for yourself. take care.