What to expect|

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Registered: 05-09-2003
What to expect|
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Mon, 01-05-2004 - 12:47pm
I wrote las week on this board about my bf of 3 years, told me he was thinking about what he wanted in life, that he didnt know what was going on with him, etc. This was last monday after diching me off the previous weekend.

Well, he kept calling during the week, to check up how was I doing. This sat I called him saying that I understand that at our age he needs time to think about his like and what did he wanted to do about it, but that if thinking this affects our relationship in some way he copuldn handle, he needs to tell me this, so I can move on. That if only he needed some alone time, I will understand and will give it to him. But if he wasnt sure about us, and woudlnt be in a long term, then we should move on. He then told me he was going to call me. He called yesterday to see me and talk, but I was at the movies with a friend, so I told him to meet up this weekend to talk. I asked if he knew already what he wants, and he answered "some...". I´m kindda of expecting a break up, and i dont know how to handle it. On the other hand, maybe I´m mistaking and overreacting. What do u think?!

I just needed to vent, I´m quite down this week, my family is moving to another country to live, I´m left alone with my puppy, and I´m moving to a smaller place...so I needed some confort.

Thanks,

Bel.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 2:42pm
Bel,

Go with the flow. Take care of you. Find things that make you happy. You have a lot of changes going on in your life right now, moving, family moving, not seeing him as much....

I hope things work out.


Carrie

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Registered: 11-01-2003
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 4:10pm
yes we often do assume the worst, that he may break up with us, etc, but many times the men don't know what they want. they want certain things but there are things which they have doubts about. i say still prepare yourself, but im proud of you that you know what you want. if he isn't sure, then its not fair for him to keep you hanging. maybe if the two of you really took a break, he then can think about what he wants. you don't miss it till it's gone.