WHAT IS GOING ON!

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Registered: 08-09-2004
WHAT IS GOING ON!
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Mon, 08-16-2004 - 1:18am
What the hell is going on in his head!!!!!

I'm engaged to a man who i thought was perfect my dream guy, caring loving everything i could ask for...

The other day whilst we were "Making Love" i was trying to keep my voice down and i accidently bit him, and he almost hit me, he raised his hand at me and was just about to hit me, that scared the life out of me and for 2 days i was upset and very hurt...

and today i went to the letterbox, and i had gotten a bill from a weird telephone company,That i'd never seen before, so i called it up to see what it was about, and the woman on the phone told me that its a 5 dollar international data call website telephone company,and she was going on about you download "dialers" where u pay by the minute, so obviously its bloody porn.

so i checked the computer history and what do u know theres history of porn on the day i was at work and he was supposed to be looking after his step daughter.

i wouldnt have been THAT annoyed if he had told me or sumthing, yeh i would have been upset, but now that i know hes been sneeking around my back it just hurts more!

i want to be able to trust him...

what the hell do i do?? am i over reacting??

Thanks for your help.

kim.

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 8:17am

You can check other posts I've repied to and see that I, in most cases, dont think porn is an issue....what bothers me in your case is that you are more concerned by the fact that you see he has visited porn sites, rather than you beleive he could have struck you the other night. What more though, is that you have children involved....


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Registered: 05-29-2003
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 8:19am
I have a feeling that you are the mother of a little girl and that you are living with this guy. Is the "stepdaughter" your daughter?
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 5:24pm
It's pretty normal to almost hit someone that's biting you.... I ran your post by my bf, he's not violent in any way, shape or form.... however, he's told me that if I pinch a zit and if it really hurts, he has to hold back his normal reaction of wanting to strike out in pain. Same if he does it to me, we both know we don't mean to hurt the other, but wanting to hit is a normal reaction when you are being hurt.


Carrie