What is going on??????

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Registered: 02-20-2004
What is going on??????
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Fri, 02-20-2004 - 10:13am
So i have been with my boyfriend for 5 years... we have made it through many TRYING times and I was starting to think that we were headed for that "happily ever after". About 2 years ago I found a phone number on his cell phone bill that he would repeatedly call late at night on the nights that he was out and about.

I built up the nerve one day to call it.. and it was someone named "Jasmine". In the 3 years that we had been togather, I had never heard him talk about her... So I confronted him and of course they were "just friends"... well, I left him for a few months because I felt betrayed that he couldnt be open enough to tell me about her without me having to find out by rumaging... we had to work through some trust issues.. and out of LOVE for each other, started seeing each other again. So for the past 2 years we have been having a wonderful relationship... I am really trying to be everything that he needs and vise versa... Except for this morning, I looked at his cell phone and saw that last night he called her atleast 7 times in a row (back to back to back until she answered) when he was supposedly at "Dinner with his job".

I could always call the girl just to try to get the truth... but why should I question my man's word? I am a secure woman and really trying to live with a trusting relationship... but this for some reason is really bothering me... What do I do??????

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Registered: 02-01-2004
Mon, 02-23-2004 - 5:20pm
Ok i understand u really want to believe him that they are just friends but why late night phone calls. If shes just a friend, why not tell you about her, and why do it behind your back. It must not be "just friends" but if this is going on awhile why stress yourself with someone you cant trust. Trust is very important, and if he's cheating, he will do it again, believe me! I know! so before moving forward in your relationship make sure you trust him, and always go with your gut feeling because it almost always is right. Good Luck

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 02-23-2004 - 5:30pm
How can you get an honest answer from a man that lies? Your first reaction two years ago, leaving the phone bill with highlights on the table and leaving was perfect. That said it all. Too bad you took him back after that. IMO

Because guess what, *just friends* don't typically call each other 10 times a day - that's more about building an intimate, emotional relationship, having an affair, the thrill of the excitement.

With or without confirmation, because you know, really know, he's not going to admit to anything even if he's doing something with her. Trust your gut feeling.

Sorry you have to go through this.


Carrie

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Tue, 02-24-2004 - 2:22pm

no, the

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Registered: 05-20-2003
Tue, 02-24-2004 - 2:58pm
'if i met her i would still be jealous, and it wouldnt help the situation. '

Of course he said that. He can insult you, blame you, control you and get you to stop pressuring him to meet his other girlfriend. If he were a decent guy and respected you and was really just friends with her he would have introduced you by now tohelp alleviate your jealousy. He is playing you for a fool while you are staying because you 'love him'.

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